Motherhood: Yakini Etheridge Walks the Line Between Prissy and Parental

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Before she became a mom, Yakini Etheridge used to have a standing beauty appointment once a week. Then, there were times when she couldn't remember when she'd last put on make-up. Like many women, Yakini Etheridge initially got into blogging to chronicle her motherhood adventure, particularly for her friends and family in her home state of Maryland. She approached her blog, Prissy Mommy, with all sorts of enthusiasm and excitement. But today, with two children, a lawyer husband, a "real-life" job as a clinical psychologist, and two other blogs besides, she approaches beauty and life with a much more balanced perspective.

Visit Prissy Mommy, Prissy Reviews, or Style Me Prissy, and you'll see she's very much into being a mom and being fashionable. Prissy Mommy is filled with pics of her two boys, Chase and Bryce, and her husband Derek, and posts about potty-training and preschool. Prissy Reviews is filled with reviews and giveaways of children's products; it was started specifically because the readers of her first blog asked her to keep the "commercialism" separate from her motherhood posts. And Style Me Prissy features Yakini as "the woman I'd thought I'd lost when I became a mom," the beautiful woman who loves crystal-encrusted stilettos, pink lipstick, and diamond salt and pepper shakers.

While she has enjoyed the expansion of her brand, she faces a challenge perhaps unique to her career, which has made the balancing act a little difficult, she says. While most bloggers strive to limit how much they reveal about their families and certainly about their children, just for identity protection, she must also limit what she shares and with whom she shares it because of the inappropriateness of  her patients knowing too much about her personal life. "My blogging definitely has its downsides," she says. "I continually have to find the balance between what's appropriate to share and what's not."

That being said, Yakini's psychology background has been a boon to her parenting, in that she understands the science behind it. Ask her what psychology models best apply to parenting and she begins listing Freudian psycho-sexual theories, the Attachment Parenting model, and Donald Winnicott's theory of the Good-Enough Mother. As Yakini states, the "good-enough mother" starts off with an almost complete adaptation to her infant’s needs, and as time proceeds she adapts less and less completely, gradually, according to the infant’s growing ability to deal with her failure. Her failure to adapt to every need of the child helps them adapt to external realities (source). This kind of mother looks at the bigger picture of her child, whether or not they are happy and healthy overall, doesn't sweat the small stuff,  and somehow finds the balance.

She passionately wants other moms to accept that they are good enough, and to keep their balance, by realizing two things:

  1. You don't have to lose yourself completely when you become a mother. You can still be a "girly girl" and a stellar mom. Also, it's okay to date!
  2. Stick to your values. Every mother will receive "input" from people around them on anything from breast-feeding to home-schooling. It can be easy to feel self-conscious about your decisions. Don't.

Once again, you can find Yakini at Prissy Mommy, Prissy Reviews, Style Me Prissy, and on Facebook at The Prissy Mommy Life.

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14 Responses to “Motherhood: Yakini Etheridge Walks the Line Between Prissy and Parental”

  1. Yakini is also a talented baker of beautiful cakes! She’s definitely a supermom! I admire all of her talented energy!

  2. Glamamom says:

    Yakini is even more beautiful in real life, if you can believe that, and has the personality to match. I’m honored to call her a friend. Great feature!

  3. toi says:

    Yakini is beautiful outside and inside. She is a great inspiration and her insight on the psychological side of raising children is superb. I like her two points that moms to realise, I believe in that too :)

    Great, great feature.

  4. Troy Pattee says:

    I’ve never met her but you can bet I’ll be checking out her site. Great article!

  5. Dr Oz says:

    This is one of those treasures that you sometimes find on th web

  6. sunshine says:

    That is an awesome article! I wish you the best in all your endeavors. I will definitely be checking out your other projects.

  7. Cheryl Pope says:

    I’ve never met Yakini of Prissy Mommy in person but I have to say she is a class act. She reads and comments on my blog post and when I needed advice on blogging as it relates to product reviews, she answers those questions very thoroughly. I will continue to follow her posts on parenting, product reviews and beauty. Thanks for sharing.

  8. Dr. K. Mk-Sh says:

    What a wonderful read! I love this 21st century reality of women finally being able to be upfront with the pleasures of enjoying both mother & domestic hood and a professional career!! I began my career as a college professor during an era where it was a “no no” to share domestic-related info with peers who later decided our fate for tenure and promotions. Up until the late 1990s, it was wise to keep motherhood and wifehood issues separate and invisible from the workplace to be taken seriously as permanent assets; after all, many in academia assumed that the personal life of married females would interfere somehow with teaching and research. Now, I am able to read an interview about my own daughter Yakini who is able to openly enjoy both worlds without these assumptions!! Yes, indeedy!! Women have come a long-g-g way in the first decade of the 21st century:) Yakini–you are truly a “Phenomenal Woman” who shows other women that with organization and discipline, we can do it all! Well done:)

  9. nabs says:

    i loved the title of this article. it was so befitting of what yaki truly represents.

  10. Meka Roberts says:

    This is a beautiful article on a beautiful person! If I have to choose one thing I like about Yakini, it has to be her honesty!!!!! Looking forward to what the future has in store for this young lady, because presently she rocks!!!!!

  11. Yakini is one of my fave bloggers to follow. Thanks for a great article on her.

  12. Yakini is truly an amazing woman, wife, mother, and friend. Even before I met in her person, I felt so connected to her because as she states, “we truly are kindred souls.” Love this feature!

  13. Cynthia says:

    Yakini is awesome!! She is wonderful friend, mother, wife and Psychologist. I just love reading whatever she writes.

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